Bar
& Bat Mitzvahs
The Bar Mitzvah and Bat Mitzvah are a 'rite of passage', or a crossover from childhood to adulthood; a milestone in a Jewish
life.
Judaism deems a boy a 'Bar Mitzvah' when he turns 13 years old, and a girl becomes 'Bat Mitzvah' when she turns 12. (Reform
Jews celebrate both boys and girls coming of age on their 13th birthday). At that point, the child, who is no longer a child
in the eyes of Jewish law, becomes responsible for his own deeds - spiritually, ethically, and morally.
Why Celebrate the Bar and Bat Mitzvah?
Though people talk about being 'Bar-Mitzvahed', there is NO ritual that must be performed to be considered a Jewish adult
in the eyes of Jewish law. So what's the big deal? Why all the celebration?
Jewish law holds parents accountable for their children's misdeeds. Since Mothers and Fathers, as of their child's 'coming
of age', are now no longer liable if their little darling cause damage, steal or lie, it is cause for celebration. It is also
a reason to be joyful for the the Bar Mitzvah boy and Bat Mitzvah girl, who are now at the age when personal responsibility
dawns. This new accountability is cause for celebration - for both the parents who are no longer 'blamed' for their child's
misconduct, and for the child, who can now be proud of the new responsibility.
For many children, preparing for a Bar or Bat Mitzvah ceremony is both a highlight of their growing awareness of Judaism,
and also a moment when they are the center of attention (a most craved position). To participate in the service gives a sense
of belonging. To be the focus of all the fussing provides a sense of importance. If it is done right, the experience will
be positive and will build a warm, happy, lasting bond with Jewish life.
Furthermore a Bar and Bat Mitzvah is timed to coincide with the first stretch of adolescence. As a teen reaches for identity
throughout these rocky years, Bar and Bat Mitzvah memories stand for what it means to be a Jew. In the best case they will
foster a sense of connection with all that Judaism has to offer.
If you would like me to be the DJ or MC at your Bar or Bat Mitzvah, please feel free to Contact
me.
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